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The Unexpected Leader | Ep3: Learning While Leading

Nov 2, 2026

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The Unexpected Leader | Ep3: Learning While Leading

I've spent years learning about leadership. Still catch myself answering too soon.

The Unexpected Leader

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Vaugan Nayagar
Vaugan Nayagar

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Someone believes you’re ready to lead. You’re still working out what that means.The Unexpected Leader is a five-part series exploring the move into management: accepting responsibility, facing doubt, learning while leading, finding your principles and beginning relationships with your team.

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The Unexpected Leader | Ep3: Learning While Leading

I've spent years learning about leadership. Still catch myself answering too soon.

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Thandi meets the team. Their silence leaves her wondering.

The Unexpected Leader | Ep1: What are you really accepting?

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Follow Richard and Anand through the decisions behind a major project. Learn to question the business case, challenge commitments your team can’t support, and explain what has to give when another “urgent” priority arrives.

Project Heisenberg | Ep1: What are we buying, and why now?

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Project Heisenberg | Ep2: Is technology the thing holding us back?

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Project Heisenberg | Ep3: I gave them a date I couldn't defend

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Project Heisenberg | Ep4: Can AI speed this up? What has to wait?

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Project Heisenberg | Ep5: What did the project actually change?

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Builders Workshop | Ep3 : The Shelves

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Builders Workshop | Ep4 : The Crew

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Builders Workshop | Ep5 : The Builder

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Broken Teams | Ep3: The Commitment Problem

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The Emotionally Intelligent Leader | Ep1: Catch Yourself Early

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